AFFAIR RECOVERY COUPLES INTENSIVE IN MINNESOTA
A Private Weekend Retreat to heal from the immediate aftermath of an Affair & Infidelity.
In person in Golden Valley, Minnesota
Online for couples located throughout Arizona, Minnesota, & Wisconsin
It’s ok to not know what’s next.
You don’t have to navigate this on your own
The discovery of an affair has brought distress in your relationship, and you’re marriage can’t wait— you need help now. You have no idea what to do next and you need support from a couples therapist well trained in affairs and infidelity to intervene quickly and support your relationship in crisis.
An intensive weekend can allow time for deescalate and repair and a relational crisis, process the unhealed hurts, and understand how potential attachment injuries impact your relationship.
You’ve just discovered an affair. Now what?
Betrayal trauma doesn’t just threaten your relationship— it a threat to your nervous system. The immediate stress to your body has taken over: the pit in your stomach, racing thoughts, waves of panic, shock, denial, difficulty sleeping, and feeling numb in your emotions.
An affair recovery intensive couples weekend gives you both the time you need with extended time to get help to regulate your nervous system with a therapist who creates a safe space for you to process the betrayal.
Your marriage is in crisis and so is your nervous system.
Weekly traditional couples therapy isn’t enough when you need time to process. It’s hard to start a therapy hour while getting to the deepest hurts only to stop and hold your pain until the next week. Betrayals need more time that leaves you feeling like you are getting somewhere in your relationship without pausing your progress.
Imagine a weekend couples retreat to find hope for your relationship, believe you can get to a place of healing, and actually repair your marriage better than before the infidelity happened.
Wonder if you can trust again or if you are about to lose everything?
You’re in the right place— Evidence Based Gottman Method Couples Therapy for affairs and infidelity
Intensive Couples Therapy Weekends in MN can help you accomplish in one weekend what may take 3-4 months in weekly traditional couples counseling.
Science-backed steps to heal from an affair using The Gottman Method Couples Therapy
The Gottman’s Trust Revival Method is a three-phase process that is created from Dr. John Gottman’s research and experience helping couples recover from infidelity. Together, John and Julie Gottman’s approach to affairs has been tested and produces a high success rate among couples to heal after an affair.
Evidenced-based couples therapy requires effective strategies that take more time, and more can get done in one weekend than with traditional couples counseling. With intensive couples therapy, there is time to dive deeply into the healing that affair recovery takes: effective interventions to to improve the relationship in the aftermath of infidelity.
This isn’t a one-size-fits all intensive. From the initial assessment to the treatment plan, your experience is collaborative to your story and relationship needs.
Affair Recovery Couples Intensive Therapy at Luminate Therapy
Work with a Certified Gottman Therapist.
Jeana Wescott, MA, LMFT, CGT has dedicated over a decade to working with couples using The Gottman Method. Her combined expertise in affairs and Intensive Couples Therapy (Gottman Marathon Sessions) have helped hundreds of couples have a transformative experience.
Couples who have worked with Jeana have often moved a couple from the brink of divorce to recommitting in new ways of healing towards stronger love.
The Trust Revival Method of Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Phase 1
Atone
The partner who betrayed the other must take full responsibility, express genuine remorse, and show a willingness to listen without defensiveness. This phase focuses on ending all contact with the third party and understanding the motivations behind the betrayal.
Phase 2
Attune
The couple focuses on building a new foundation by learning to manage conflict and fostering deep, emotional understanding. This stage requires the partner who cheated to make the relationship a priority and involves, for example, going public to close friends or family to cement the commitment.
Phase 3
Attach
The final phase involves rebuilding trust, commitment, and intimacy, including physical intimacy. This stage is about re-establishing a secure, loving bond and creating a "second marriage" with the same partner.
What you get
Private Couples Therapy with a Certified gottman therapist
Science Backed Gottman Connect Relationship Assessment
Personalized treatment plan For Goal-oriented Therapy
A Relationship ToolKit with resources for home
Comfortable, inviting Therapy space so you can focus on your relationship healing and connection
A collaborative therapy experience for Healing & Repair
Choose the right intensive for your relationship repair.
Affair Recovery Couples Intensives are offered in a few formats to meet the needs & goals of your relationship. In person intensive couples located at 8085 Wayzata Blvd Suite101A, Golden Valley, MN.
Available online for couples in AZ, MN, & WI.
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This weekend couples therapy package includes the full Gottman Couples Therapy assessment and couples therapy with 16 hours in one weekend. A couples therapy intensive can help healing and repair, fostering connection, skills-building for communication and conflict, and other therapeutic interventions that are selected to help couples make significant progress through their issues in one weekend.
Included In This Package:
Gottman Connect Online Relationship Assessment with therapist analysis and feedback for the best evidence based outcome for therapy
Targeted goal setting for a structured weekend of therapy and personalized treatment planning specific to your needs as a couple
Access to the Gottman Relationship Builder for at home modules and continued learning. (Valued at $599)
A take home package of tools and supplemental materials
Weekend offering:
Friday: 4 Hours
Saturday & Sunday: 12 hours of couples therapy with a 1 hour lunch break each day
Relationship investment: $4900
Luminate Therapy accepts HSA/FSA cards or credit cards (American Express, Discover, Mastercard, Visa).
Please note because of the time commitment involved, a 50% deposit is required at the time of booking for all intensive packages.
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This weekend couples therapy package includes the full Gottman Couples Therapy assessment and couples therapy of 12 hours in one weekend. A couples therapy intensive can help healing and repair, fostering connection, skills-building for communication and conflict, and other therapeutic interventions that are selected to help couples make significant progress through their issues in one weekend.
Included In This Package:
Gottman Connect Online Relationship Assessment with therapist analysis and feedback for the best evidence based outcome for therapy
Couples goal setting for therapy and personalized treatment planning specific to your needs as a couple
Access to the Gottman Relationship Builder for at home modules and continued learning. (Valued at $599)
A take home package of tools and supplemental materials
Weekend offering:
Saturday & Sunday: 6 hours of couples therapy with a 1 hour lunch break each day
Relationship investment: $3900
Luminate Therapy accepts HSA/FSA cards or credit cards (American Express, Discover, Mastercard, Visa).
Please note because of the time commitment involved, a 50% deposit is required at the time of booking for all intensive packages.
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This one-day intensive is for couples who have completed the full Gottman assessment process and are ready for a full day dedicated to couples therapy. This can be utilized as an add on to other couples therapy services provided.
6 hours of couples therapy and 1 hour lunch break
Science backed couples therapy interventions and relationship skill-building combined into one weekend
A take home package of tools and supplemental materials
Offered Saturdays, Sundays, and Mondays. Some Fridays availability based on schedule
Relationship investment: $1900Luminate Therapy accepts HSA/FSA cards or credit cards (American Express, Discover, Mastercard, Visa).
Please note because of the time commitment involved, a 50% deposit is required at the time of booking for all intensive packages.
Imagine finally getting to…
Resolve deep hurts and relieve distress
Couples intensives can help you spend time in therapy working through the emotional injuries in your relationship. Imagine not waiting for weeks to get relief from your relational distress by getting the time you need to move through challenging issues and get the relief.
Experience accelerated change and connection
Experience working through the issues you bring into a therapy intensive and begin to feel the change in your relationship and feel closer as a couple. Often, couples come out of an intensive feeling closer, connected, and stronger together.
Overcome the obstacles in one weekend
Most couples leave the marathon weekend feeling less intensity in their relationship and accomplishing their goals for therapy. For some relationships, a weekend is a kick-start to the work ahead. For others, 2-3 days of intensive work is just what they need, and they move into the maintenance phase of Gottman therapy.
Affairs don’t have to end your relationship.
faqs
Other couples intensive questions? I’ve got answers.
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Active alcohol or drug addiction of either one or both partners, from either partner’s perspective. Including failure to comply with an addiction recovery plan.
If there is serious domestic violence in your relationship, threats by one or both partners that violence might occur, or fear of violence from one or both partners.
Untreated major mental illness (schizophrenia, bipolar, recurrent psychotic symptoms, etc).
If there is a current, ongoing affair and the partner is not willing to end it.
If there is an undisclosed current affair that you are not willing to disclose.
Either partner is currently experiencing suicidal or homicidal thoughts, or has history of serious harm to themselves or someone else.
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The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a comprehensive relationship assessment will pinpoint the areas in which you can achieve the greatest growth so you can move forward to a place of strength, reconnection, and hope.
It consists of 337 questions about friendship, intimacy, how well you know your partner, how you manage emotions and conflict, how you share your values and goals, and what gives meaning to your lives. There are additional questions about parenting, housework, finances, trust, and individual areas of concern. The questionnaire is completely confidential, fully HIPAA compliant, and your therapist will be the only person to see your responses.
Upon completion, it automatically provides valuable clinical information by pinpointing specific strengths and challenges inyour relationship, while also suggesting actionable, research-based recommendations for therapy.
You can feel confident in your results. Drs. John and Julie Gottman created this research-based assessment in collaboration with The Gottman Institute to help couples build a personalized treatment in therapy.
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Frequent conflict and arguments
Poor communication
Emotionally distanced couples on the verge of separation
Specific problems such as affairs, betrayals, infidelity, money, and parenting
Couples wanting to jump start relationship therapy
Relationship is in crisis or feeling significant distress
Couples who have trouble with scheduling weekly sessions
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I am licensed to practice with clients anywhere in Minnesota, Wisconsin, and Arizona. Ethical and licensure state statutes require clients to be located in the state where the therapist is licensed.
If you do not have a licensed therapist who practices the Gottman Method in your state and desire to have an intensive session with me, you can do so by traveling to my office location in Minneapolis or joining via Telehealth/Zoom.
My office is approximately 15 minutes from the MSP airport and there are several hotels, Airbnb, and restaurants within minutes of my office.
Feel free to contact me to discuss your options and a Minneapolis local guide to hotels, restaurants, etc.
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Intensive couples therapy are private pay only. I do not bill insurance for relationship therapy. Insurance requires a diagnostic assessment of a mental health diagnosis of one identified patient of the couple. Couples or relationship therapy is meant to change the cycle of the couple with two people in order to improve the relationship rather than label one partner as the problem through a diagnosis.
A superbill will not be given for intensive sessions due to the CPT coding system designed for insurance billing. Unfortunately there are no longer extended session codes for therapy after 2023.
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Use the contact form to get started and set up a free 15 minute consultation phone call.
On The Luminate Relationship Blog: “The Effectiveness of Intensive Couples Counseling.”
“To build hope or confidence in couples therapy, the couple has to see rapid, dramatic change in a relatively short time. When done well, an intensive session can demonstrate resolution for even the most gridlocked issues."
— Dr John Gottman on Intensive Couples Therapy