AFFAIR RECOVERY COUPLES INTENSIVE IN MINNESOTA
A Private Couples Intensive to heal from the aftermath of an Affair & Infidelity
Offered Thursdays, Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays— In person in Minneapolis, MN, and online throughout Arizona, Minnesota, and Wisconsin.
It’s ok to not know what’s next.
Healing from an affair is possible.
The discovery of an affair has brought distress to your relationship, and you’re marriage can’t wait— you need help now. You have no idea what to do next and you need support from a couples therapist who supports both of you in the relationship to intervene quickly and support your relationship in crisis.
An intensive weekend can allow time for deescalate a relational crisis, process the unhealed hurts, and understand how potential attachment injuries impact your relationship.
An affair has been discovered. Now what?
Betrayal trauma doesn’t just threaten your relationship— it a threat to your nervous system. The immediate stress to your body has taken over: the pit in your stomach, racing thoughts, waves of panic, shock, denial, difficulty sleeping, and feeling numb in your emotions.
An affair recovery intensive couples weekend gives you both the time you need with extended time to get help to regulate your nervous system with a therapist who creates a safe space for you to process the betrayal.
Your marriage is in crisis and so is your nervous system.
Weekly traditional couples therapy isn’t enough when you need time to process. It’s hard to start a therapy hour while getting to the deepest hurts only to stop and hold your pain until the next week. Betrayals need more time that leaves you feeling like you are getting somewhere in your relationship without pausing your progress.
Imagine a weekend couples retreat to find hope for your relationship, believe you can get to a place of healing, and actually repair your marriage better than before the infidelity happened.
Wonder if you can trust again or if you are about to lose everything?
You’re in the right place— an affair recovery intensive creates months of therapy in one weekend
An Affair Recovery Intensive in Minneapolis, MN creates powerful momentum for couples who need to heal the pain, seek clarity and gain hope now.
Science-backed steps to heal from an affair using The Gottman Method Couples Therapy
The Gottman’s Trust Revival Method is a three-phase process that is created from Dr. John Gottman’s research and experience helping couples recover from infidelity. Together, John and Julie Gottman’s approach to affairs has been tested and produces a high success rate among couples to heal after an affair.
Evidenced-based couples therapy requires effective strategies that take more time, and more can get done in one weekend than with traditional couples counseling. With intensive couples therapy, there is time to dive deeply into the healing that affair recovery takes: effective interventions to to improve the relationship in the aftermath of infidelity.
This isn’t a one-size-fits all intensive. From the initial assessment to the treatment plan, your experience is collaborative to your story and relationship needs.
Affair Recovery Couples Intensive Therapy at Luminate Therapy
Work with a Certified Gottman Therapist.
Jeana Wescott, MA, LMFT, CGT has dedicated over a decade to working with couples using The Gottman Method. Her combined expertise in affairs and Intensive Couples Therapy (Gottman Marathon Sessions) have helped hundreds of couples have a transformative experience.
Couples who have worked with Jeana have often moved a couple from the brink of divorce to recommitting in new ways of healing towards stronger love.
Step 1
Phone Consult
We begin with a pre-intensive phone consultation to hear your relationship concern, determine an affair recovery intensive is right for you, and answer your questions about the couples intensive process. I’ll give you next steps to secure your affair recovery intensive, including a Luminate Therapy Intensive Guide to prepare your relationship for the intensive.
Step 2
Intensive Session
An intensive begins with the evidence-based Gottman Connect Relationship Check-up. We will have a joint session, two individual sessions. Together, we create a treatment roadmap with your goals in mind. We’ll use the Gottman Method for Affair Recovery and Betrayal Trauma throughout the intensive.
Step 3
Maintenance Plan
The recovery work doesn’t end when the intensive closes. We have a structured follow-up process to maintain the progress you have made and continue the healing. At the close of the 2-day or 3-day intensive, we will develop a plan for continued care (whether that's weekly, biweekly, monthly, or a half-day or full day intensive).
What you get
Couples Therapy with a Certified gottman therapist
Science Backed Gottman Connect Relationship Assessment
Personalized treatment plan For Goal-oriented Therapy
A Relationship ToolKit with resources for home
Comfortable, inviting Therapy space so you can focus on your relationship healing and connection
A collaborative therapy experience for Healing & Repair
Choose the right intensive for your relationship repair.
Affair Recovery Couples Intensives are offered in a few formats to meet the needs & goals of your relationship. In person intensive couples located at 8085 Wayzata Blvd Suite101A, Golden Valley, MN.
Available online for couples in AZ, MN, & WI.
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This weekend couples therapy package includes the full Gottman Couples Therapy assessment and couples therapy with 16 hours in one weekend. A couples therapy intensive can help healing and repair, fostering connection, skills-building for communication and conflict, and other therapeutic interventions that are selected to help couples make significant progress through their issues in one weekend.
Included In This Package:
Gottman Connect Online Relationship Assessment with therapist analysis and feedback for the best evidence based outcome for therapy
Targeted goal setting for a structured weekend of therapy and personalized treatment planning specific to your needs as a couple
Access to the Gottman Relationship Builder for at home modules and continued learning. (Valued at $599)
A take home package of tools and supplemental materials
Weekend offering:
Friday: 4 Hours
Saturday & Sunday: 12 hours of couples therapy with a 1 hour lunch break each day
Relationship investment: $4900
Luminate Therapy accepts HSA/FSA cards or credit cards (American Express, Discover, Mastercard, Visa).
Please note because of the time commitment involved, a 50% deposit is required at the time of booking for all intensive packages.
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This weekend couples therapy package includes the full Gottman Couples Therapy assessment and couples therapy of 12 hours in one weekend. A couples therapy intensive can help healing and repair, fostering connection, skills-building for communication and conflict, and other therapeutic interventions that are selected to help couples make significant progress through their issues in one weekend.
Included In This Package:
Gottman Connect Online Relationship Assessment with therapist analysis and feedback for the best evidence based outcome for therapy
Couples goal setting for therapy and personalized treatment planning specific to your needs as a couple
Access to the Gottman Relationship Builder for at home modules and continued learning. (Valued at $599)
A take home package of tools and supplemental materials
Weekend offering:
Saturday & Sunday: 6 hours of couples therapy with a 1 hour lunch break each day
Relationship investment: $3900
Luminate Therapy accepts HSA/FSA cards or credit cards (American Express, Discover, Mastercard, Visa).
Please note because of the time commitment involved, a 50% deposit is required at the time of booking for all intensive packages.
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This one-day intensive is for couples who have completed the full Gottman assessment process and are ready for a full day dedicated to couples therapy. This can be utilized as an add on to other couples therapy services provided.
6 hours of couples therapy and 1 hour lunch break
Science backed couples therapy interventions and relationship skill-building combined into one weekend
A take home package of tools and supplemental materials
Offered Saturdays, Sundays, and Mondays. Some Fridays availability based on schedule
Relationship investment: $1900Luminate Therapy accepts HSA/FSA cards or credit cards (American Express, Discover, Mastercard, Visa).
Please note because of the time commitment involved, a 50% deposit is required at the time of booking for all intensive packages.
Imagine finally getting to…
Process betrayal trauma in a safe space
You’ve been trying to talk it out at home— emotions are high, the shock of an affair, and the reactions that come from the trauma of betrayal. Imagine having a dedicated intensive with a couples therapist who can hold space for both of you. An affair recovery intensive can help you work through the relational distress together and get past the immediate aftermath of an affair.
Experience healing and start rebuilding trust again
You want to experience deep healing of the attachment wounds of infidelity— it’s hard to trust again. Experience the deep work of an intensive couples therapy retreat and begin to work through accountability and turn towards each other in healing, together. Couples come out of an intensive feeling closer, connected, and stronger together. Healing is possible after an affair.
Overcome the obstacles in one weekend
Most couples leave the marathon couples therapy weekend feeling less intensity in their relationship and going from surviving a crises of infidelity to imagining the possibility of love again. For some relationships, a weekend is a kick-start to the work ahead. For others, 2-3 days of intensive work is just what they need, and they move into the next phase of Gottman Method Couples Therapy for affairs and infidelity.
Affairs don’t have to end your relationship.
faqs
Other couples intensive questions? I’ve got answers.
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Active alcohol or drug addiction of either one or both partners, from either partner’s perspective. Including failure to comply with an addiction recovery plan.
If there is serious domestic violence in your relationship, threats by one or both partners that violence might occur, or fear of violence from one or both partners.
Untreated major mental illness (schizophrenia, bipolar, recurrent psychotic symptoms, etc).
If there is a current, ongoing affair and the partner is not willing to end it.
If there is an undisclosed current affair that you are not willing to disclose.
Either partner is currently experiencing suicidal or homicidal thoughts, or has history of serious harm to themselves or someone else.
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The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a comprehensive relationship assessment will pinpoint the areas in which you can achieve the greatest growth so you can move forward to a place of strength, reconnection, and hope.
It consists of 337 questions about friendship, intimacy, how well you know your partner, how you manage emotions and conflict, how you share your values and goals, and what gives meaning to your lives. There are additional questions about parenting, housework, finances, trust, and individual areas of concern. The questionnaire is completely confidential, fully HIPAA compliant, and your therapist will be the only person to see your responses.
Upon completion, it automatically provides valuable clinical information by pinpointing specific strengths and challenges inyour relationship, while also suggesting actionable, research-based recommendations for therapy.
You can feel confident in your results. Drs. John and Julie Gottman created this research-based assessment in collaboration with The Gottman Institute to help couples build a personalized treatment in therapy.
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Emotional affairs- Intense, non-sexual relationships that share deeper emotional intimacy than the primary partnership.
Physical affairs- Primarily physical, ranging from one-night stands to ongoing sexual relationships.
Romantic affairs- Combines both emotional and physical intimacy, often involving a deep, romantic connection and thoughts of leaving the primary partner.
Conflict/intimacy avoidance affair- Used to manage distance from a spouse or to avoid dealing with marital problems.
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I am licensed to practice with clients anywhere in Minnesota, Wisconsin, and Arizona. Ethical and licensure state statutes require clients to be located in the state where the therapist is licensed.
If you do not have a licensed therapist who practices the Gottman Method in your state and desire to have an intensive session with me, you can do so by traveling to my office location in Minneapolis or joining via Telehealth/Zoom.
My office is approximately 15 minutes from the MSP airport and there are several hotels, Airbnb, and restaurants within minutes of my office.
Feel free to contact me to discuss your options and a Minneapolis local guide to hotels, restaurants, etc.
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Intensive couples therapy are private pay only. I do not bill insurance for relationship therapy. Insurance requires a diagnostic assessment of a mental health diagnosis of one identified patient of the couple. Couples or relationship therapy is meant to change the cycle of the couple with two people in order to improve the relationship rather than label one partner as the problem through a diagnosis.
A superbill will not be given for intensive sessions due to the CPT coding system designed for insurance billing. Unfortunately there are no longer extended session codes for therapy after 2023.
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Use the contact form to get started and set up a free 15 minute consultation phone call.
“To build hope or confidence in couples therapy, the couple has to see rapid, dramatic change in a relatively short time. When done well, an intensive session can demonstrate resolution for even the most gridlocked issues."
— Dr John Gottman on Intensive Couples Therapy