COUPLES THERAPY & MARRIAGE COUNSELING IN MINNEAPOLIS

Restore connection & improve communication.

Problems are part of any relationship.

Feeling stuck, disconnected, and lonely from your most important relationship is tough. You desire to feel understood by your partner, connected through emotional intimacy, and able to talk to each other without it ending in a fight.

You may have been dealing with the same problems for many years. Sometimes, you make progress, and things feel better for a while, but the same issues appear again at the next fight, and you never find yourselves coming back together to make resolve.

Relationship problems and conflict are opportunities for growth and closer connection. The goal is not to fight but to learn to fight better. Problems in a relationship serve a purpose, and it is how you manage these conflict issues in your marriage or relationship.

Most couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy in their relationship to start couples counseling. That is six years of building up hurt and resentment before beginning the critical work of learning effective ways of resolving problems in therapy. Don’t worry, it’s not too late! Every couple has struggles in their committed relationship or marriage. You're in the right place to get the help you need to find healing in your relationship, and couples counseling is the right first step.

Healing is possible. You can learn to understand and love each other better, deal with life changes, and repair your relationship from the problems that hurt both of you.

You’re tired of feeling caught in this relationship cycle:

Having the same fights over and over again with no resolution
Feeling more like roommates, disconnected, and your partner doesn’t know you anymore
Tired of never reaching a compromise and feeling like one of you usually gives in

how i can help you

Couples therapy can help you build the relationship you both want.

Does this sound familiar?

You’re feeling exhausted by the same fights repeatedly with no real progress. You want a couples therapist who won’t just talk to you about it or watch you argue. You want an intentional therapist to help you understand each other and work towards solutions.

You remember a time in your relationship when you could both feel love for each other, and things used to be easier than now. You are ready to bring back the spark.

Maybe you’ve tried counseling before, and you still find yourself stuck in the same loop of misunderstanding and disconnection in your communication. You’re looking for a couples specialist who can give you the missing pieces to bring you out of your distressing cycles.

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imagine if you…

Felt connected with your partner

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Connection is the heart of your relationship. Imagine if you and your partner were attuned to each other and had a foundation of emotional connection, trust, and passion in your relationship. Couples therapy can help you build a healthy foundation to feel close again and truly get through the hard stuff together as a team.

Could stop fighting and start talking

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Communication patterns that get you stuck in repeated cycles of escalating conflict can trigger deep emotions. It can be helpful to become aware of those emotions that cause repeated arguments about the same topics in your relationship that you never seem to resolve. You can learn to understand these cycles, repair these patterns, and find love and respect in your relationship again.

Faced past hurts together to find repair and healing.

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Every couple fights, and often, some of these fights are on repeat. There is a way to find healing and repair in your relationship and learn to fight better. Couples come into therapy with pain from past hurts that can be hard to get past without understanding the repair process. Healing is possible, and getting past the hurt can happen.

What it’s like to work with me in Couples Therapy

In our sessions together, we go beyond talking about your problems.

I'm dedicated to helping couples strengthen their connections, improve their communication skills, learn to fight better and reach healthy, satisfying relationships through the evidence-based Gottman Method of Couples Therapy.

Therapy will begin with an important first step: a relationship assessment. The assessment examines your relationship status across several domains that are linked to a couple's happiness and staying together.

We will collaborate to build a treatment plan around specific areas of your relationship that have been identified as challenging. Therapy sessions will involve structured exercises to help you and your partner learn new skills and work through issues as effectively and efficiently as possible.

Parts of The Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Part 1: Relationship Assessment

Session 1: Good couples therapy begins with a thorough relationship assessment. During the first session, the therapist will meet with the couple to gather the history of the relationship and understanding of the issues that bring you into couples therapy in the first place.

As a couple, you will both receive a complete introduction of the Gottman Method and its effectiveness towards couples therapy outcomes. Both partners will be asked to complete an online assessment (Gottman Connect) separately that measures various aspects of your relationship after the session. After you both complete the assessment, your therapist will score and analyze the results to begin integrated the treatment plan for couples therapy.

This initial appointment is 80 minutes.

Sessions 2 and 3: The therapist will meet with each partner individually to gather personal histories and further assessment of the relationship.

The individual sessions are 45-50 minutes each.

Session 4: The therapist and the couple will come back together to discuss the results of the assessment process. During this session, the therapist will discuss the treatment plan and begin introducing the initial intervention specifically for your relationship challenge areas.

The session 4 couples session will be 50 or 80 minutes.

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Part 2: Couples Therapy

After the assessment process is complete, therapy sessions begin. The frequency and duration of therapy will be different for every couple based on the couples goals and areas identified for specific interventions.

Therapy sessions are structured towards skills-based and emotionally based interventions that offers effective results for every couple. Many couples begin to feel significantly closer right away as they begin working in therapy towards skills that are made to last after therapy is concluded. Couples often find the Gottman Method Couples Therapy to be a positive experience and will successfully complete their goals, leaving therapy with a more relationship satisfaction.

Therapy sessions may resume at 50 minutes or 80 minutes. Your therapist will collaboratively discuss which option would be best fit for the interventions and needs of your relationship.

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Part 3: Maintenance

After regular couples therapy ends, couples will return for refresher appointments to prevent relapse and best suit their relationship's needs.

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Want faster therapy results for your relationship?

The Mini Intensive
1 Day Couples Intensive
2 Day Couples Intensive Weekend

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Common reasons to start couples therapy:

ADHD Couples & Neurodivergence
Empty Nesting
Life Transitions
Household Labor Conflict
Finance Stress
Resentment Buildup
Trust Issues & Betrayal
Emotional & Physical Intimacy Concerns

I want you to know:

You deserve a love that last.

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faqs

Common questions about couples therapy

Yes! Some couples find it doing couples counseling in the comfort of their own home works best. We are licensed in Minnesota and Wisconsin and can provide Telehealth anywhere in both states via zoom. We are also offer in person session at our office in Golden Valley, MN.
It happens and in general couples wait too long to come to therapy. You can’t make your partner come to therapy until they are ready. Fortunately, I have training in individual couples therapy and we can still make a positive impact on your relationship.
Sometimes an individual will reach out to begin the couples therapy process, and one doesn’t want to come. It is possible to get started and perhaps they will want to join when they are ready.
Counseling is for all kinds of couples: married or committed, heterosexual or same-sex. Everyone is welcome.
It is important for both partners to be willing to actively participate in the therapy process, be open to self-reflection, and commit to making positive changes in the relationship.
Couples often come into therapy:
- Frequent conflict and arguments
- Poor communication and frequent fighting
- Trust issues from betrayals or infidelity
- Emotionally distanced couples on the verge of separation
- Specific problems such as sexual difficulties, infidelity, money, and parenting
- Desire to strengthen a relationship upon empty nesting or a major life transition.
My goal is to work myself out of a job and I’m ready to dive into what is bringing you into therapy.
Depending on what you are coming in with, therapy on average will take 5-10 months.
Couples counseling provides a valuable opportunity for the couple to work together to overcome challenges, improve their relationship satisfaction, and build a stronger and healthier partnership.